Wednesday

40 places to go before your kids grow up



History lessons all wrapped up in a vacation what a way to experience the lessons in life as well as some historical value in our own country's backyard . well in fact of a history buff myself I really do enjoy going and seeing nature as it is learning about the people that live there century or two ago and finding out what the landscape had produced what are the benefits of those products being made minerals being taken and the food production be at plants or animals, God created a wonderful landscape for us to discover and look at what off below is a link for you to follow.

 Before I take my family to go see some of these places. I'd like to either read up on it or watch a couple of videos so, that when we actually get to these places will have a better understanding of what we're seeing and experiencing.   To make the moments a little more memorable .

Tuesday

Kids & Responsiblity

Times I feel that I'm constantly telling my kid what time it is the morning.  Or I have be on him about doing a chore.  Remembering what a friend told me of how her daughter now refer es to her mom "you always bitch"  was telling me I need to start a new method to motivation on responsibility while he's younger.

Don't let your chore-dodger off the hook   1.   Keeping the chores fun while still adding more responsibility..........Give your kid time to have some independence while working, this way he doesn't loose his identity.  Find some motivational tricks to keep him growing up.  

Doing chores together makes things fun...Reading the book Speed Cleaning was helpful in cleaning
with two / more.  In addition we can spend more time on activities we would rather do instead of cleaning.   Avoid rewards...remember we're a family and family helps one another.  He learns by example, be a great example.

Teaching structure and efficient in tasks are great lessons.  Simply following the process of moving around the house to clean.  Using tools to get the job done right the first time, quickly and easily helps with efficiency.

Keeping a schedule.....daily chores and weekly chores is a great way to structure and give him security.  

If you need to make consequences here's a tool that I use.  8-misbehaviors  

Bossiness is not motivating to kids. Letting them give input is essential in preserving their sense of self-reliance and self-assurance  2.    Listening to him lets him know that you still care about what he thinks and his opinion.  Letting him know that he still counts, Listening with Empathy is another great lesson by example.



1    teaching/the chore challenge  Parents


2    5 ways to maotivate kids to do chores

Wednesday

Moving With Teens

While moving to three school systems I thought of how the impact of all this has effected my teen.  I looked at the moves as an opportunity as to see how the systems differed and what was offered and how students were taught as well as aided to their specific needs.

Below is what the professionals have to say:



Adolescence put a tremendous amount of time and energy into finding just the right peer groups. 

The process of reaching out to other teens and learning how to socialize consumes an inordinate amount of their energy (and, when the phone bill comes, your income). Through this laborious process of "fitting in" teens are forming their own identity.

As melodramatic as teenage angst my seem, ignoring or minimizing the real difficulties that moving presents to teenagers only makes them worse.  To help your teens make the transition as smoothly as possible, parents have to know when and how to intervene and when to back off.

To Do's List:

  • try to schedule relocation around the academic calendar
  • Before you leave try to schedule not-to-distant future when your teen can return to visit.
  • try to find out as much as possible about your new hometown
  • Make sure your teen as a many ways possible to access their old friends; phone, internet etc...
  • get involved in the social community; church, extracurricular activity, youth sports


“Comments about death or dying should never be taken casually”.

“Keep an eye out for signs of depression-----or any behavioral changes”

Thursday

Frame for this Year

Kids are new to this ideology but, need to be introduced.  Goal setting for the year, yes the year.  Why so long well this will help build them up for long-term goal setting.  Otherwise, they may go aimlessly through life without ever knowing how to p repair, organize, work towards something they want.

Let them sit down make a list in say a couple of hours or less.  Brain storm and make a list overlying these areas of Life

  • Health
  • Friends-fun
  • Family
  • Relationship
  • Physical environment
  • Money
  • Personal development
  • Spiritual growth
Now, I ask that #30 things that overlay the #8 above of things they want.  No excuses, if a goal wasn't accomplished then write a different way of achieving the goal.  eg. Loose weight change to -- do jumping jacks #10 every morning.

  1. Run faster in gym, and breath 
  2. Achieve going higher ranks Martial Arts
  3. Get stronger working out
  4. Practice jumping, kicks for higher
  5. Make new friends, Stop at every Lemonade Stand
  6. Build stuff with others for enjoyment
  7. R/C play become familiar, confident & good skills
  8. Rocket launcher
  9. Camping, swimming, motorcycle-pocket bike riding
  10. Water park
  11. Family tree history
  12. Spend time with family, relatives
  13. Birthday with relatives
  14. Saving self for right girl 
  15. take garbage out
  16. put away stuff when I'm done
  17. my mom want's me to clean, organize, room, cloths, school stuff; bag, and desk
  18. finding jobs
  19. save 70% spend 20% invest 10%
  20. learn life's lessons read eBook
  21. listen to more books, magazines
  22. Art projects, festivals
  23. make inventions on paper then make it
  24. http://youbtube.com/kidscornervlog video's presentation skills
  25. Play Better Behavior Wheel for rewards instead of consequences
  26. making church friends
  27. helping others be Christians 
  28. be a good example
  29. play Christian music
  30.  Be careful about what I see, say, hear, go and do because God's always watching


Wednesday

First Day



While this was not my child's very first day it was indeed the first day of a new grade the fifth in fact.  Last year at the Elementary School so, now he's one of the big kids on the block to presay.  Anyways, I wanted to write this post on all the Do's of Positive Parenting.  It a refresher for those of you who read my post via email.

Social

  • Ask how was their lunch
  • How did recess go
  • Who did you play with
  • Did you make new friends
  • How are your old friends doing
  • What do you think of your teacher
  • How was the bus ride

I find that these questions stir up some conversation and give me some information along the way.  This way if there’s any problems we can correct them earlier in the year.  Also,  I like to be involved in my kids life, hearing about all the little social stuff my seem Dum but, if it were drugs, or sex I wouldn’t be a first timer listening to my kid.  Be a great teacher to your child be a positive parent.

Mental
  • Ask about the books and when are you getting some to cover
  • Make a daily planner that’s visible on wall
  • Set time & place just for studying; quite, plenty of light, no distractions
  • Be a positive parent that’s available to help
  • Set small goals
  • Have all tools; pencils, high light marker, dry erase marker, paper etc…

Physical

  • Scheduled physical activities; walking, sports, outdoors
  • Eat Brain Foods  Brain Foods for Kids by Nicola Graimes
  • Stretching is important, so stretch out, stand up to take 5 min break during study time
  • Get plenty to drink; water is the best our bodies are 60% of the stuff
  • Rest eight hours

Religion 

  • Take time to read the Bible together
  • Daily Bread
  • Class / Workbook on abstinence
  • Attend services together and make a support group
  • Talk to God encouragement from him is like no other

Tuesday

Magic Key - Concentration

How many children are labeled with ADHA these days is this a escape of the possible solution. Are there just too many distractions in our children's lives that they can not concentrate. Possibly many of us have too much to do and do not sit down with our children and just listen to them. Give them feed back on relating stories of our own lives with the goal of pointing them in the right direction. With the child realizing that they too have experienced the same thing in life. Below is a list of tools used to create that Magic Key to success. Concentration. • Physical activities- moving away from electronic devices and going out side to spend time moving the body around. Fresh air is the best for the body as well as the mind. Promoting clean unmanufactured air to the body helps removes toxins as well as supports the immune system. • Mentor ship - spending time with your child on a one on one setting gives your child the opportunity for development on balance of conversation. Remember you are their teacher in life so, set a good example. Attitude, Problem solving skills as well as insights of other people. Explaining to them about why those people do what they do. • Health (food) - Eating right is an old time cliche but, has been developed into a more detailed look as to what to eat. My recommendation for emotion and mental support is recipes from Brain Foods for Kids by Nicola Graimes. Supporting the body so that it can function at optimal level. We want our kids to reach their full potential in life.
• Meditation - yes I said meditation this may seem a little advanced but, having your child sitting and listening to the birds while they find a focal point can give you these results. This trains the brain as well as the body to sit quietly at a resting point. • Conscious Choices - turn into unconscious habits. Your child is building a wall of habits, of good choices. Teaching your child about life and all of life's little secrets on why we do things a certain way gives them insight and understanding. I even learned a thing or two from these lessons that I linked back too, check it out and see for your self. Sometimes we find that we must negotiate with them as to reach a better understand as well as a good choice
. The magic key is at your finger tips and with your guidance and teachings your child can reach that point of concentration their Magic Key.

Monday

Morning & Evening Study Habits


Study time, how much, when and is it all?

I realize as a mom that two things are very important while studing with a younger student. Prefect pratice makes perfect. Sure these time for that period of just getting familiar with the new matterial. So, I just continually tell him the answers or read the new words to him. After some time has been invested with familairity. Having him do the work individually and making sure that it is perfect or better words Correct, complete. Breaking things down to get the big picture is also a great hands on gift. While we use a dry erase board to put some history names of men on the board and what each one did makes it easier for memoration. Seeing, saying.

Using the after school homework time before dinner or after depending on how hungry. Kids have fuluating appitites so I make sure he's getting what he needs. Then the studying begins this is a schedual and we keep on our schedual at all times. Homework gets done then activities. If there's a test we skip our activities and go on studying untill he knows the matterial well and correctly.

Definitions we use the study sheet and to think your kid can paraphase??? Not, a good idea it's better that he just learns what the teacher has printed out word for word. Its only memoration skills not too difficult.

Math is done in parts, mulipcation we have been working on for some time. He's getting it in sections for easy memoration and making his math skills complete.

He has one hour to watch a movie before bed, play his game, or just build something. This is a schedual not an option.

Mornings I use for memoration of Cub scouts sayings, bible, and go over his math flash cards. If something was left out the night before he does the work in the morning.

For more study tips; SparkLife.com and Greatschools.org