In my experience from what I understand sometimes parents have unresolved issues. The issues can rise from being disowned themselves. And having a stigma or a very strong boundary. And anyone who violates such a thing. It triggers their own disownement. The old tape played as a loop; to their present i've made a list of reasons why parents disowned children.
I didn't realize I shared inappropriately, while trying to be vulnerable. I scared/&pushed loved ones away. I realize with my ability to make sense of messages from others and my own emotional baggage I've told self limiting false beliefs...I'm practicing unpacking; knowing where i end and others begin. To become my authentic self and accept my feelings. To realize when my needs aren't met. Im healing My dysfunctional behavior. And, making progress living in the Solution.
I told brother why I left home, (1979) in the yr of 2001 after deployment and return home i was disowned, 20 yrs later still disowned.
Reasons Parents Disown Their Children
Family Conflict
- Disagreements: Parents may disown children due to ongoing conflicts or disagreements over values, lifestyle choices, or personal beliefs.
- Substance Abuse: Issues like addiction can lead parents to sever ties for their own safety and mental health.
Behavioral Issues
- Violent Behavior: Parents may feel compelled to disown children who exhibit violent or dangerous behavior, especially if it threatens the safety of other family members.
- Criminal Activity: Involvement in criminal activities can strain relationships, leading parents to cut off contact.
Emotional and Psychological Factors
- Mental Health Issues: Parents may struggle to cope with a child's mental health challenges, leading to feelings of helplessness and eventual estrangement.
- Abuse: Experiences of abuse, whether physical or emotional, can prompt a parent to disown a child as a means of self-protection.
Societal and Cultural Pressures
- Cultural Expectations: In some cases, parents may disown children who do not conform to cultural or societal norms, such as those related to marriage or lifestyle choices.
- Stigma: The stigma surrounding certain behaviors or identities can lead parents to distance themselves from their children.
Financial and Legal Considerations
- Disinheritance: Disownment can also involve financial implications, such as cutting off inheritance or financial support, often as a form of punishment or control.
Disownment is a complex and painful decision, often resulting from a combination of these factors.
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